Help With Relationship Blackmail

What To Do About Relationship Blackmail?


Online blackmail and sextortion go beyond the digital world, and when it does, it is challenging to combat. I am referring to situations where individuals have physically entered your life, be it for one hour or one year.


In-call escorts, who enter a home or hotel room, provide opportunities to gather information to set a person up. One step out of the room allows them to search through your belongings, collect identification, confidential business data, who knows.


What is even more dangerous is the relationship of understanding or, as some call it, a sugar daddy situation. These situations feed or raise a person's financial standings and status. Plus, you have opened the door to your life, possibly traveled, in photos together, and did the deed of sending them an electronic payment, a severe digital footprint. The precarious part will come when you decide to end the relationship, and they will then fall from financial grace. Who knows what the reaction will be, a demand for a big payoff to walk away? Or enact revenge.


Blackmail is not gendered biased; women too fall prey. Typically, those of wealth and success. These blackmailers are usually younger or less successful males. Many who find themselves in arrangements know it is not forever; therefore, some prepare for a rainy day. One of the issues with knowing your blackmailer is it can turn into a stalking situation where they don't disappear from your life. When relationship blackmail begins, it can be hard to discern the true motivations of the individual. Sometimes it can be a play for a big payoff or a grave emotional issue. Either one is not good for you.

I have worked cases where blackmailers hunkered down in a hotel near a victim's home. The physical presence is a threat to the possibility of knocking one's door. Then what occurs is notes on parked cars, photos of the building where one works, and the extreme of pictures taken of family members. All of this is stalking, again is it emotional or a vicious game played for a payday. If you are in an arrangement with someone, plan carefully on how you are going to end. Is there the possibility it can become explosive? 


Protecting yourself and getting out of  blackmail relationship is a delicate matter. If you are in one, I can help.

Frank M. Ahearn

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